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Legacy of an adopted child

For years I've seen this poem floating around the internet always attributed to "author unknown." It drives me insane. And no, I didn't write it. But I remember the first time I saw it in print, in "Teen" Magazine, back in the early 1980's in their "Poetry Corner." I kept a copy of the poem for years and there most definitely was an author. I believe her name was Peggy or Patty. One of these days I am going to find an old copy of the magazine and find out for sure. The author was another adopted teen who submitted her poem to the magazine. The other thing that bugs me is that it's often misquoted. I've had this poem embedded in my heart for over 20 years.

I want that woman to know that I have not forgotten what she wrote and I haven't forgotten her.

Legacy of an adopted child

Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call mother.

Two different lives shaped to make yours one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first gave you life, the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for Love, the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you the seed for talent, the other gave you an aim.

One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
One saw your first smile, the other dried your tears.

One gave you up, it was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child and was led straight to you.

And now you ask me through your tears
the age old question through the years,

"Heredity or environment, which am I the product of?"

Neither my darling, neither,
Just two different kinds of Love.

December 7, 2005 - Posted by heartened | Adoption Void | | 4 Comments

4 Comments »

  1. My name is Penny. I wrote this in 1984. I won an award for it in Indianapolis when I was fifteen. I wrote it for my best friend who was adopted. I never knew it would take off like it did. I never expected to be an author unknown. Because I was a troubled teen I don’t know if anyone even believes I wrote it.

    Comment by Penny | March 10, 2008 | Reply

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  3. I gave my baby up 21 yrs ago. We met last yr. Now she wants this poem tatoo’ed on her side because we have had it since right before she was born. I thank you for this poem. I wasnt a troubled teen but couldnt take care of her and offer her a good life.

    This poem was perfect and her parents gave her a copy when she was younger. She has had it ever since.

    Thank you Penny for your poem

    jana wallace

    Comment by jana | September 18, 2008 | Reply

  4. I’m so glad that there is a name to go with this poem, I was adopted and I’ve always carried a copy of this poem around .. thank you penny for these workds that I have read all my life

    Comment by jane | May 5, 2009 | Reply


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