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Can you hear us now?

Our "blogging buddy" Kim Kim contacted Carrie Craft at adoption.about.com to tell her about some of the blogs we, the adoptees, have been maintaining. Carrie has some fabulous lists of blogs from across the plane, and has now added a list of adoptee blogs. You can see the list here. Don't forget to check out her Top 10 Placing/Birthparent Blogs list and her Top 10 Adoptive Parent Blogs list as well.

I made an observation on Kim Kim's blog that I find it interesting that most of us (adoptees) have only been blogging for a few short months. I find myself wondering if we are so quiet because we are perpetuating the shroud of secrecy which surrounds our origins. Now we're learning to speak up, and leaning on each other for support. I thought at one time that I didn't want anyone but me reading what I wrote on my blog – now I find that the little comments my new friends leave for me each day bring me great comfort. I'm glad my voice is being heard, and more than that, I'm glad it is being heard by people who GET it.

The more I think about it, the more I think there really is something to this idea that we are perpetuating the silence. When you look around the majority of adoption sites, the adoptees seem to be in the minority. It is almost as if we are afraid of coming together and connecting with each other, afraid of speaking, afraid someone might hear us.

Not any more. Not, at least, for this group of "blogging buddies." We are going to speak our truth, whatever that truth may be. No more silence. No more secrets. No more shame.

Can you hear us now?


February 3, 2006 - Posted by | Adoption Rants


  1. Heart,

    It does feel good to be “out of the closet” and finding our voices, huh? And the more of us who do speak up, the faster change can occur. I sincerely believe that!

    Glad you decided to share your voice with us!

    Comment by Cookie | February 3, 2006 | Reply

  2. Heart – I know for me that I always thought I was of a minority group. Kinda like the fact that my Aparents are still married after 45 years and like each other. That was the norm until junior high when I learned the word divorce. After “meeting” everyone, I have come to realize that we are far from a minority and we have a lot to share from our lives, in hopes of making the future better for everyone in the “triad”.

    Comment by Benny | February 3, 2006 | Reply

  3. I hear you, and I’m sure many more are hearing you by the day. Your work and your speaking will pay off.

    Comment by speakingformyself | February 3, 2006 | Reply

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