The whole kit & doodle!

Looking for the SoA Forums?

Edited to add: If you are still unable to reach the forums, there are a few steps you should take.

1.  Make sure you are adding the www in between http:// and soulofadoption – When a change like this is made, it sometimes takes a while for it to catch up.  Making sure the www is present can help your computer and ISP and the site all "synch" together. 

2. Reboot your computer. Do a complete shut down. Wait 5 seconds. Turn it back on. This helps clear your computer and reset your connection to your ISP.

3. Try going to the website, holding down your shift key and clicking refresh/reload.

4. Be patient, it may actually still take YOUR ISP (internet service provider – like AOL, SBC, YahooDSL, etc.) up to 12 hours to refresh their DNS. If you still cannot access the site by tomorrow morning after AGAIN repeating steps one, two and three, call your ISP and ask the tech "How often do you refresh your DNS?" Ask them to do a refresh while on the phone with you. When they've done it, reboot your computer (again) and try getting to the forum.

5. If none of that works and you're still going insane, leave me a message here on my blog and I'll try and help you troubleshoot it.

They'll be back in a few hours – promise! Our host (jbservers.net) was transferring us to a new server – the fastest, best one they have. It was supposed to be done during the middle of the night, when traffic is lowest, but it seems someone made a boo-boo and scheduled the transfer for the wrong time of day.

I'm sorry I didn't post about this earlier – I'm a night owl, I was sleeping. LOL

But "this" is the 9 hour outage I posted the announcement about last night. It just happened at the wrong time of day, unfortunately.

We won't have to go through this again, promise. And honestly, jbservers was giving us a very nice "gift" by moving us to another server.

Here's a trick that's good to know – if ever you're getting a weird message when you try to go to the forums (I know most of you have bookmarked the forums rather than the site) – just visit http://www.soulofadoption.com

That's going to give you the most accurate "error message," letting you know if something big is being fixed.

Also, bookmark my blog. I'll try to post information here if anything like this ever happens again.

Don't forget, you can always email me through my blog – heartened1 at gmail d0t c0m


April 10, 2006 Posted by | General | 8 Comments


There is a certain adoption-related website which I have not only supported in the past but I actually volunteered my time and energy to serve as a forum host for them.  Since I refuse to link to them from here on out, let me say that their website address contains a www then a dot then the word adoption and a dot and then the com.

Today, in the owner’s “infinite wisdom” a decision was made to delete the “non-traditional families” forum.  What is a non-traditional family, you might innocently ask?  A GLBT family, of course. 

I’ll write more about how I feel about this in a moment – in the meantime – I offer soulofadoption.com as an alternative.

The discussion forum is here – http://www.soulofadoption.com/forum/index.php

There is a thread specifically devoted to this topic here – http://soulofadoption.com/forum/index.php?topic=16.0

You do need to register, but I promise, I won’t spam you.


April 4, 2006 Posted by | General | 8 Comments

“It’s a girl!”

From an email my sister R sent me this morning – “I talked to mom’s sister Aunt J**** and she agreed that you should come for the reunion which is the weekend of June 11 she is going to talk to the aunts and let them in on what has been going on in regards to the new addition to the family, I told her we should send out birth announcements “It’s a Girl” but she told me I had a weird sense of humor…. I don’t think so, do you?”

Why no, R, I don’t think you have a weird sense of humor – I think you have MY sense of humor. Or I have yours. Laughing10

I’m still sitting here snickering about the whole thing. I find it so funny that my sister would say the exact same thing I would say in that situation. Nature vs nurture indeed. LOL

In other news, our sister S’s husband was in the hospital at the end of last week. This is the sister I haven’t “met” yet. R gave me her email address today in case I want to send them an e-card, something I would really like to do. When R first told me what happened last week, I asked her to tell S and her husband that they were in my thoughts. On my end, it doesn’t matter that S and I haven’t talked – I know she is my sister and some primal (?) part of me reacts to the fact that my sister is having a problem. I want to fix it, which I know I can’t. So, failing that, I at least want to support her. At the same time, I don’t want to intrude, you know? R doesn’t seem to think I would be intruding, but we’ll see.

R and I continue to get along extremely well. We talk via email or phone pretty much every day. When we get on the phone, we’re on it for hours. Usually her husband is home and I’ve come to know him through stuff R passes back and forth as we’re talking. I can usually hear him really well in the background and he just chimes in during our talks. Mine does the same, when he’s home. It’s nice! He clearly loves my sister which makes me extremely happy. I get a HUGE kick out of the fact that her hubby and mine have the same name. LOL

I dream about them (my siblings) a lot, now. Because I have names and faces, they seem to show up with greater frequency with each passing day. It’s kind of like, well, do you know how it is when you’re first dating someone? They don’t really enter your dreams much, though you might have an “adult” dream in which they’re featured. LOL But they aren’t “part of the scenery” yet. Almost as if you’re surprised to see them there. Then, after a while, just as they become part of the scenery of your life – there everyday, not such a surprise – so too do they become part of the scenery of your dreams. You “expect” them to show up. You “expect” that if you’re dreaming, they’re going to show up in the story line. Well, that’s where things are with my sisters – R in particular. She’s part of the scenery of my life and my dreams. Now, considering I’ve only “known” her for what – a little over two weeks? That’s a surprise. But just as it is with my husband, it is as if she has always been there. I’m not surprised to find her in my dreams, she belongs there just as she belongs in the scenery of my life. How sad that it has taken 35 years for that to happen.

 Edited to add:  I just got another email from R.  The last line, gotta love it –

"And the reason that we clicked is that we are like twins that were born two years apart, you just needed to cook longer."

I wrote her back and said  "Hahahaha!! Yeah, it is like that, isn't it? Except it was THREE years dear sister, not two. LOL Don't make me any older than I already am, damnit. -snicker-"

Yup, that's my sister – and I'm stickin' to her. 

April 4, 2006 Posted by | Reunion | 1 Comment

Welcome to the new digs

I am such a follower. LOL  Seems several people I know are migrating over to these WordPress blogs.  Since I love WP and use it quite often as a CMS for websites, it seemed silly to not give their new blogging server a try.  I’m pleased, very pleased (other than not being able to edit my template myself, but WP says they are working on that).  I’m quite impressed with the quality templates they’re offering and absolutely love the sidebar widgets.  I’m thinking the developers may be able to create header and footer widgets in the near future, which would be a good alternative to full template access.

In case you didn’t know, WordPress is what powers the Soul of Adoption website.  Neat, huh?  Of course, that version is completely customized because as the server owner, I have full code access.  That’s not the case with these hosted blogs, but I’m content.

I’ll add a redirect on my blogger.com blog and start sending people here.  I’m pretty happy with the format WP is offering and, of course, it has one of my favorite features – categories.  Something blogger has long been needing.  I do prefer blogger’s open templates and the fact that you code your links yourself, but that’s a “me” thing and I realize that for most people, the method WP uses for adding links is much more functional.  I’m not complaining, it didn’t take me long to move my links over.

Of course, WP also offers the very cool “static pages” feature.  That’s always a nice bonus, and being able to have pages in addition to posts comes in really handy. 

So anyway, here I am, settling in to the new digs.  Don’t forget to update your bookmarks.  You don’t want to miss anything. 


April 3, 2006 Posted by | Geek Stuff | 3 Comments

Are you bored? Take a stumble!

About 8 months ago, maybe a little more, I discovered this neat little piece of software you can (SAFELY!!! I promise!) install – it is called “Stumble Upon”. What this is, is something called a “browser extension.” Your browser is what you view websites in – you’re probably using Microsoft’s Internet Explorer, most people do. If you have any significant amount of computer expertise, you’ve probably thrown Internet Explorer out for the trash it is and installed Firefox as your browser. Guess which one I use?

Stumble Upon is something you install as an add-on to your browser. Fortunately, those of you running Internet Exploiter (my poor, misguided friends, I love you anyway) need not fret. The wonderful programmers at SU have taken pity on you and have created a version which works with Internet Exploiter.

I promise – the Stumble Upon software is 100% safe. It won’t crash your computer, it isn’t spyware, there are no viruses. (But seriously, do yourself a favor – install Firefox and leave Internet Exploiter alone. Internet Exploiter WILL crash your computer, it IS spyware, and it allows more viruses through to your computer than anything else ever will. Internet Explorer SUCKS!!!!!)

Sorry, I can’t help it. Anyway. What is Stumble Upon? Well…I’ll give you the description from their site.

“StumbleUpon is an intelligent browsing tool for sharing and discovering great websites. As you click Stumble!, you'll get high-quality pages matched to your personal preferences. These pages have been explicitly recommended (rated I like it) by friends and other SU members with similar interests. Rating these sites shares them with your friends and peers – you will automatically 'stumble upon' each others favorites sites.

StumbleUpon uses / ratings to form collaborative opinions on website quality. When you stumble, you will only see pages which friends and like-minded stumblers () have liked. Unlike search engines or static directories, this allows for a true "democracy of the web" – all SU members have a say ( or ) as to whether a page should be passed on.

In effect, StumbleUpon's members collectively share the best sites on the web. You can share any site by simply clicking I like it. This passes the page on to friends and like-minded people – letting them "stumble upon" all the great sites you discover.”

Seriously, if you enjoy finding new sites, checking out some of the coolest places on the net, and having endless hours of entertainment handed to you on a silver platter, just by pushing a button – all customized to your own interests, install Stumble Upon.

And no, I don’t “get” anything for telling you about this. You all know what a techie geek I am – this just happens to be one of my favorite toys. I put off mentioning it because I was trying to focus this blog on adoption. If you decide to become a Stumbler, drop me an email and I’ll give you my Stumble Upon user name so we can “be friends.”

If you’re worried, I should mention, I have never ever, not even once, gotten even the tiniest bit of spam as a result of Stumbling.

Ok, real quick – about Firefox – if you want to completely eliminate pop-ups; if you do not want to be subjected to those god-awful “GIVE US YOUR BABY” ads on a “certain commercial adoption-related website;” if you want to avoid those stupid in-line text ads on that same “certain commercial adoption-related website;” if you want most advertising banners, period, to disappear from your view; if you want worry-free browsing; if you want to stop spyware (or viruses) from being installed on your computer while you’re browsing websites; if you want total control over browsing – including only having to open one browser window while being able to view 10+ web pages at the same time; if you just want to enjoy surfing the web and stop worrying about all the bullshit – go install Firefox right this minute. Once it is installed, you can also install AdBlock and the AdBlock Filterset – and be done with banner ads, popups and the rest of that crap. Even if you’re viewing porn sites. -smirk-

Go on, get going – what are you waiting for?

April 2, 2006 Posted by | Geek Stuff, General | 1 Comment